Where We Are Today!

So now we start another journey, in July 2012, we started the process of bringing home our 4^th child.  We contacted our lawyer in Ghana and he started the process on his end, while we started on our end.  Is this really real?  I asked myself several times, are we really doing this again? Yes we are, and we couldn’t have been more thrilled. 

We had all the paperwork for our homestudy filled out and ready, we have to have 3 appointments with her, and one of them has to be at our house.  Which that one was already finished! So now 2 more to go.  We had a vacation planned for the beginning of August; we wanted to get as much done as possible.  One of our good friends was leaving to go to Ghana at the end of August and we wanted to send our dossier over with her, and then we found out that she was leaving the 1^st of August.  Bummer for us but great news for her, she was going to see her kids!!!  We weren’t sure how it would get to Ghana, but we knew God would provide a way.

The homestudy visits were now complete, in the end of August, now we are just waiting on the homestudy to be printed.  On September 6^th (our middle son’s birthday) we got a gift, our preview homestudy came in the email.  I was so excited because another friend of mine just planned a trip to Ghana in the middle of September, so now we just need the final copy of the homestudy completed before she goes and she can take the dossier to our lawyer!  I looked over the homestudy and there were just a few mistakes, so I emailed them back with the corrections and then asked her if there was any way we could get the finalized homestudy before my friend left, she said she would work on it and try her best.

The week my friend was leaving was the week we got our finalized completed homestudy!!! Just in time.  I took everything to her the day before she was leaving.  I am a last minute person, but this was cutting it close for me!

Everything was feeling more and more real to me.  I was told by our POA that the lawyer was ready to go to court as soon as we are approved.  So we thought that when she took the dossier over we would get a court date within a few months.  It was Tuesday September 18^th and the phone rings at 6:30am I answer and it is my friend that was in Ghana, she said that we had a court date the next Thursday 27^th!  WHAT??? Goodness I wasn’t expecting this! I just sent off my I-600A application on Friday. So this really took me by surprise!  I know things happen and court dates sometimes have to be changed, but to know we were that close to being his parents legally was CRAZY!!!

After a week of “oh my goodness” we get another phone call saying court was gonna have to be rescheduled, and they didn’t know when it would be but they would let me know as soon as they knew.  So now we wait.  It’s ok, we are waiting on our finger print appointment for the I-600A approval.  We can go to court without it but we can’t file the I-600 in Ghana without it. 

 

A couple of our friends are going over sometime soon to get their kids; it would be awesome if we get our approval fast enough for one of us to go over and file it with them.  It will be really close, but it is possible. 

 

With our first adoption, everyone supported our decision to bring home another child. We really thought that people would be excited that we were bringing home Kobys best friend from Ghana. Little did we know, we weren't being supported by to many people.  Many people have given us their opinion about this adoption.  We have been really hurt by several comments.  We have been told that this isn’t of God for several reasons.  But I have a story to share.  I know I have an on time God, and this just proves it to me that He is standing right there with us through this adoption.  We have done several fundraisers; we did a car wash and a couple of yard sales.  I sell Gold Canyon Candles and have done several of those to go toward other adoptions and a couple to go toward ours.  We sold the J103 (a Christian Radio Station in Chattanooga) coupon books.  I am also doing outside pictures and selling a CD to help with the adoption cost.  Jacky just finished a weight loss challenge, where we asked if anyone wanted to sponsor him per pound.  We did a pasta fundraiser and we have a Just Love Coffee website, https://justlovecoffee.com/hope4henry check it out, and share with your friends!  Every time something is due we have the money, when our homestudy needed to be paid we had all but $200 and then that came the next week.  We needed to send money over for several different things and every time we had just the right amount and it just came that week.  During one of our homestudy visits we were rear ended and our car got totaled.  Thank God we were all safe!  A few weeks went by and we received the insurance money to buy another car.  We went car shopping and finally found what we were looking for.  After a week or so we got our reimbursement of our part we had to pay.  Little did we know we got an extra check from them because we had to go without a car for several weeks.  Well guess what?  That was the week the POA was going to meet the lawyer.  We had to send money over for him and our little guys medical and birth certificate.  And I want you to know the amount we received was $90 more than we needed to send over.  Think this is a coincidence? Well I don’t.  Here’s one more,  I told you about the weight loss challenge,  it just so happened that it ended the week before we go to court, and he lost 27 pounds during this, our friends and family gave (added all together) $35 per pound.  And if everyone pays we will receive $945, and we have to pay the lawyer the rest of his fees and then apply for a passport and a new birth certificate, and you guessed it, this amount is really close to what we are going to have to send over!  Tell me My God isn’t Awesome and I will have to tell you otherwise! He has provided for us so far and I have no doubt He will provide for us the rest of our adoption journey!

I finally got an email telling me that we have a court date!  It is Thursday October 18^th.  We got our fingerprint appointment and it is Friday October 26^th. So that is where we are today, waiting till our court date, and finger print appointment. 



*****UPDATE*****
Our Lawyer and POA went to court this morning, and there were to many cases today so they chose some to come back next week and we were one of the chosen ones.  I hate that it didn't happen today but we aren't ready on our end anyway, so keep next Thursday October 25th in your prayers, that's when we go back to court!!! THANK YOU :)

 

 

Finally All Under One Roof!!!

After being home for a little while, and he was speaking English very well, he started telling me stories of Ghana.  He wouldn’t tell them in front of anyone, he waited till it was about time for bed and me and him would go into my bedroom and lay down to wind down.  He would start talking; some of the stories would just make me cry.  I questioned some of them to some of the older boys that I had become friends with on facebook, and they confirmed them to be true.  After several stories I started falling in love with his little best friend, they had done everything together. 

Christmas 2011

One day while I was cutting his hair, his daddy came home and he said “hey daddy I want you to be Henrys daddy and momma to be his momma.”  Jacky looked at me and said “Wendy did you tell him to say that to me?”  I told him that he hadn’t even said that to me, I wasn’t expecting that one.  I didn’t mention his little best friend to him because all he would say is how much he wanted us to bring him home to live with us.  He would tell us that he didn’t have anything and he wanted to share his stuff with him. 

I did start thinking, while we were there in October, we had took Koby some little hot wheels cars and he took them to the orphanage and gave them to all his little friends.  That made me start crying. For weeks I cried all the time.  Jacky didn’t know what was wrong with me.  We would talk about the kids at the orphanage and I couldn’t help but cry.  I am a BIG BABY when it comes to those kids! 

 

I wanted to start the process over again and bring home his little best friend.  Jacky wasn’t on board.  He said the process scared him.  He didn’t want to go thru all that again, our process with Koby was so smooth, and he was worried that we wouldn’t get it so smooth again.  He had a few fears so I wouldn’t bring it up to him.  But I did pray and ask God, if it was meant to be, if we were supposed to bring him home then God would have to give Jacky peace about it.  After that prayer, God gave me peace, so I knew we would bring him home I just didn’t know when.  Jacky would come home and talk about if we brought another child home, and talking about Koby’s best friend, and other little things, so I knew God was working on him. And it wouldn’t be long before he would have the same peace that I have.  But it did take him longer than I liked. 

One of my good friends had adopted a little girl, and after their adoption went to court, and she got her papers, she called me and said that he was listed as her little girls’ brother.  We didn’t know that either one of them had a sibling.  After she brought her home, we talked about it, and first his best friend left and now his sister left.  I personally think that is what broke Jacky’s heart.  Because not to long after that, in July 2012 we were in the car going to my sister’s house and he started the conversation about bringing him home.  (by the way, he told everyone that’s all I talked about, but he was the one that brought it up, and yes if he brings it up, I’m gonna talk about it, lol) He looked at me and said “email the POA and tell him we want to start the process to bring him home” Oh my goodness, I was so excited, but not emotional, for some odd reason!  So I emailed him and asked if he was available for adoption.   He said he was almost sure he was, but he would make sure and let me know.  Well that email waiting on an answer was FOREVER!!!!  In all reality it was just a couple of weeks, because he was going out of town and going to be gone for about a week.

 

 

 

   As soon as he got back he sent me an email saying everything was good and he was available for adoption.  So I called the lady that done our homestudy and asked when she could get us started.  She said “I am going to Knoxville tomorrow, I can stop by your house on my way back home and have your home visit and start the process.”  I immediately said “YES” after I got off the phone with her, I thought to myself, we are having our homestudy visit tomorrow and I am not prepared.  With our last adoption the home visit was very stressful, I thought everything had to be spic and span, well that isn’t what she is looking at, they do want the house to be clean, but they are looking at more safety and making sure we have space for another child.  So yes I did clean but I wasn’t nearly as stressed, I just cleaned like I would normally, didn’t go above and beyond, I really didn’t have time, I had to get all the paper work filled out, because after we hung up the phone she sent it to me by email.  I was a very busy woman that night and the next day. 

I thought I would just add a few pictures of the past year that we have been home with Koby! We have had so much fun getting to know our newest addition!!!

Disney 2011

Animal Kingdom 2011

Universal Studios 2011

Momma Dylan and Koby with Mickey



Vacation 2012

 

 

Pick Up Trip!!!

 



before we left to go pick up Koby!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Time to go get my little boy wouldn’t get here fast enough!  I went thru a lot of "woe is me" moods.  We waited “patiently” from the end of October 2010 to the end of February 2011 before we got to go get him.  The I-600 process from the embassy could take up to 60 days to finalize.  We emailed them in January and they told us that we had been approved and we could pick up our packet.  I asked what was in the packet and they wouldn’t tell me, so I didn’t know if it was something my POA could fill out or what, we asked them if they would email it to us, they said no, they would mail it to us, so I asked if we could pay for next day air, and they said they didn’t do that, only standard mail.  They told us that it should take a couple of weeks to get here, yea right!  We waited, and waited, and waited, for NOTHING! Finally we just had our POA go get it and he scanned and emailed it to me.  (DUH, who wouldn’t have thought of that, first?) We couldn’t get them all to open big enough to read, but I got enough to search it on line, well all that was in that packet was the Visa Application, and information about the Visa Medical, so I searched it on line, and found it, I filled it out and emailed it back to our POA and scheduled a Visa Interview.  He took the application and Koby and his birth mom to the interview.  Everything went well, they needed the medical, that we thought we already had, but it had to be thru their doctors, so we scheduled that appointment, and they needed to see the original adoption decree and social welfare report.  Well guess what? We had that stuff here in America.  The only way to get it there was to go, because we still hadn’t received the packet they mailed to us a month before this.  So we emailed them and tried to get answers, but they wouldn’t tell us anything, they said they couldn’t guarantee anything to us.  So we decided to just go over there and pray that the visa gets printed and we get to bring him home this time.  They gave us an open date to come back and give them the information they had requested.  So we purchased our tickets to fly out on February 18, 2011 and come home February 26, 2011.  We were so excited, our friends that went with us the 1^st time had decided to go back and this was when they were scheduled to go back too!  One of my best friends and her husband had decided to adopt also, so the pictures of the little girl you see, is their daughter. 

Leaving for Ghana, we were so excited and nervous at the same time.  Not knowing whether they were gonna let him come home with us was an awful feeling.  But when we arrived in Ghana, and I hear the sweet little pitter patter of feet running toward me, and looking down and he jumped in my arms, just made my day!!!

Oh how we had missed this little guy!  We arrived on a Saturday, and we went to the Embassy on the following Monday.  They were happy with seeing the originals, and his new medical report.  They tried to print the visa that day, but their printer was backed up so they told us to come back at the end of the day so we did and it still hadn’t printed.  They told us that the printer would print all night if we would come back in the morning they would have it printed.  We were so excited, when we got up the next morning we went straight to the Embassy and guess what? IT WAS PRINTED!!!

Our little boy was going home with us!!! This was Tuesday, so we had the rest of the week to just relax and enjoy learning all we could about where our little guy was from.  We spent a lot of time at the orphanage getting to know the kids, and falling in love with every single one of them! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We went to the beach on our last trip and Koby didn’t like it at all, but we wanted to go back there on this trip, but we had waited till the last day and still hadn’t gone.  We decided we would go if we had time our last day there, we went and Koby surprised us, he loved it, he played and didn’t cry at all.

 

 

 

 

We went back to the hotel and got cleaned up for our flight.  Several of the kids came by the hotel to tell Koby bye.  He was so excited to be leaving and going to America, everyone was so happy for him also.  We left to go to the airport at 7pm, our flight was at 11pm.  He told everyone “me aqua” I don’t know how to spell it but it means “I’m leaving” we were so happy that he was ready to go with us. 

We got to the airport and checked in.  As we were in line 2 people, a man and a woman, both from Ghana,  stopped us and said they had to go thru our bags.  So we went over to the bags and the lady asked which ones were mine, I told her I had stuff in all of them, I was organized going but coming home, I just threw all the dirty, stinky clothes together.  So she was going thru them and asked why we were taking the black kid with us.  We told her we adopted him and he was going home with us, the 2 of them looked at each other and said “well that explains it” ok lets go get you on your flight.  We just had to laugh that one off, but that did start a whole new nervousness in us.  We were so scared every time we got in another line that they were going to stop us, but no one else did.  We worried how Koby would do on the plane, and he did great, he slept most of the way home.  We flew into Washington DC, and while we were waiting to go thru immigration, Koby was talking to me in Twi.  I didn’t know what he was saying, I had learnt some, and he taught me some of his words for things, I knew when he wanted to eat, drink and go potty.  Those are the most important right? Well we were in this line and he kept saying the same thing over and over and I would just say “yes” or “ok” and he would continue to say it, I had never heard the phrase he was using, but I had no way of knowing what he was saying, we didn’t have a translator!  Well, he said it again and this little elderly lady said “excuse me honey but your son is wanting something to eat” oh my goodness, that was not the phrase he had been using when he was hungry!  I am so glad she was there and she was from Ghana and understood Twi.  We had a 5 hour layover so we took a taxi and went sightseeing.  We got back to the airport and flew in to Knoxville, where everyone was there to see our precious little boy!!!  By the time we landed in Knoxville we had been traveling for 24 hours, and Koby didn’t make the first whimper, he never cried one time. 

Several wanted to go to Chuck E Cheese, so we took him there and he had a blast!  He was doing so well we decided to go ahead and go to church the next morning, he did great there too, he went in to his Sunday School class by himself.  We never had to change a thing; he has bonded with us and done so wonderful adjusting.  He was speaking quite a bit of English his 1^st month home and every day he spoke more and more.  We noticed after being home just 3 months, he was speaking English fluently, and he had totally forgotten his other language.